Fear of the Ask–What keeps YOU from inviting people into ministry?

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If you are like me, you’re busy recruiting volunteers for the upcoming ministry year. But as you face the realities of recruiting for your ministry team, is this the look that stares back at you in the mirror?

For some, recruiting comes naturally.  (Just for the record, that is not me!)  They love interacting with people and sharing about their ministry just rolls off their tongues.  They are able to clearly communicate and cast vision for their ministry.  Some recruit to tasks, although this is a no-no in my opinion.  (You can read about that in a previous post.)

But for others, recruiting is down-right dreadful.  Why?  For some, it’s fear.  Fear of the ask.  Here are some reasons why:

  • Insecurity and inadequacy:  Some people have a hard time asking for help because it makes them look weak or inadequate.  God does not want us to lead as a team of one.   There are many parts that make up the body and each part is beneficial (1 Corinthians 12:12-31).  Celebrate the ways God has gifted our fellow brothers and sisters and kick that silo to the curb!
  • Fear of rejection:  No one likes to be told “no”, especially when we think that what we have to offer is the best thing happening.  Despite our best efforts, we need to remember that it is God who puts a stirring in the hearts of people and a “no” might leave a “yes” available for someone who God will use to deeply impact our ministry.
  • Need for control:  Yep, I said it.  Some people have a hard time letting go of this because they don’t want to hear the opinions of others and may feel that they might be upstaged.  Enough said.
  • Not knowing what you need:  You know you need help.  You’re just not sure what you need.  Take an honest look at your ministry.  What are your pressing needs?  Write job descriptions for those needs and use those to help communicate what exactly you’re looking for.
  • Waiting for your ministry to be “perfect”:  I think it would be safe to say that we all want a ministry that we can be proud of.  But if we’re working towards having all of our ducks in a row before we invite others into the process, we’ll be missing out on some our greatest blessings.

Don’t let fear stop you from inviting people into the ministry trenches with you!  Allow God to unleash the potential that He has for your ministry!

What’s stopping you?  What would you add to this list?

Personal touches that make a difference

Kathie Phillips

I’m sure you’ve heard this popular quote:  “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

As children’s ministry leaders, we depend on volunteers to do ministry alongside us.  Therefore, it is vitally important that we care about them and show them regularly.  I mean genuinely care.  How?  Here are a few suggestions:

  1. Engage them in conversation–about ministry.  What role do they see themselves in?  How can you equip and support them?  How can you work together to make the ministry all that God intended it to be?  Take an interest in them as a valued ministry partner.
  2. Engage them in conversation–about something other than ministry.  Learn about their family, their job, their hobbies/interests.  Take an interest in them as a person.
  3. Ask how you can pray for them–and do it.  You can do this by calling  or emailing them or having them fill out a prayer request card when they serve.
  4. Follow up with prayer requests.  This not only lets them know that you have covered them in prayer but that you are genuinely interested about what is happening in their lives.
  5. Acknowledge special days.  Send a card (via snail mail or electronically) acknowledging birthdays, anniversaries, the birth of a new baby, get well wishes, etc.  I have done both and my volunteers love it!
  6. Surprise them every now and then.  Mid-way through our summer programming a few weeks ago, I surprised my volunteers with donuts and juice one Sunday morning with a sign that said, “We love our Summer Serve volunteers!”  We don’t have food on Sundays very often, so these are special treats for them.  It was so refreshing to see them sit down and enjoy a light breakfast and conversation with one another.  You could also surprise them with candy, a handwritten thank-you or balloon bouquets.

What would you add to the list?  

Rest for the Soul

Kathie Phillips

This week, my family and I are enjoying some time away at one of our favorite places to relax–a cabin in the woods in nearby West Virginia.  Suited perfectly for rest and refreshment, it is a home that has a wall of windows that looks out onto the tall, mature trees.  The house also has a wonderful screened porch to be able to be in nature without being in nature.  Internet and cell reception is spotty, so it’s a great place to disconnect and reconnect with God and loved ones.

In addition to reading, watching movies and playing board games with the family, one of my favorite things to do here is feed the deer.  Once the food goes out, at least eight deer come closer to the property to feed.  It brings to mind Psalm 42:1:

As the deer pants for streams of water, so I long for you, O God. (NLT)

So often as a leader, I can get bogged down with details of the ministry–scheduling, ordering/purchasing supplies, deadlines, lesson-planning, recruiting, email–and lose focus of the God I serve.  Do I take time each day to acknowledge God before I go about my day?  Do I ask for His will to be done and not my own?  Food for thought as I gear up for the upcoming ministry year.

What about you?  Does your soul long for God?  How does He bring refreshment to your soul?

Don’t forget to smile!

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Sometimes, children and families who walk through the doors of our church walk in carrying heavy burdens.  Marriage issues, family dynamics, and financial pressures can take a toll on those we serve each week.  While we cannot always lift those burdens, there is one very easy way that we can bring them a little joy:  SMILE!

Genesis 33 tells the story of Jacob and Esau reconciling after Jacob stole Esau’s birthright (see Genesis 27).  Upon their meeting, Jacob says to his brother, “..what a relief it is to see your friendly smile.  It is like seeing the smile of God!” (Genesis 33:10)

Someone might see God through your smile this week.  So go ahead and SMILE!