Summer Lovin’: Social Media, Video Games and Your Children

The following post is the first in a series of summer-related posts.  

Today’s post is written by Jason Phillips (no relation).

Safeguarding Kids on Social Media/Video Games During the Summer Months

 

Okay, school is out, and the kids are ready to play! Play video games, that is. Gear up the couch, set up the snacks, and plop those kids on the couch – it’s summer! While you may not be excited that the kids are going to be couch potatoes, they sure are. Don’t forget…they are itching to get online and give your personal information out to complete strangers.

So here’s the bottom line: your children are targets. They are targets to corporate marketing companies, internet predators, and cyber bullies. Everyone wants a piece of your child, because they are young, impressionable and easy to manipulate.

You may be asking yourself – “Self, how do we raise children to live safely in a world with social networking? When are they old enough to drive around in that world on their own? What tools do they need to cope with that world? How can we help them to be successful and safe in that world?” Well, the answer is this: school your kids.

We all know that we need to protect children in the physical world; we also need to realize that there can be just as much danger in the online world. The risks of networking online are becoming well-known, in part, through media attention. Risks for children and teens include:

  • Sharing one’s personal information with the wrong crowd. Unsupervised online contact with adults and older or manipulative kids can potentially lead to personal physical danger.
  • Bullying. Harassment may occur online only (cyber bullying), or it may spill over to offline bullying committed by a schoolmate who has located his victim online.
  • The permanency of online profiles. Once information has been shared on the Internet, it’s out there — forever! Retrieving information that others have read and captured is nearly impossible. Sharing one’s personal profile, words, pictures and videos can potentially lead to future embarrassment, harassment and even discrimination in employment and school admissions (although the latter concern is being addressed).
  • Misinformation. Kids can find inaccurate and misleading information about a variety of topics.

By 2005, 91% of children had regular access to the Internet and online material, and the online world has brought forth a slew of new opportunities for social interactions for children and adolescents. The line between video games and online content has blurred in the past few years due to many games’ inclusion of online content, including options to share personal data, interact with other players in online competitions, and immerse oneself in the worlds of Massively Multi-player Online Role Playing Games (MMORPG).

As of 2010, 93% of teens (12-17) go online, and of the children (0-5) who use the Internet, 80% use it at least once a week.97% of teens (12-17) play computer, web, portable, or console games.

Here are a few tips to make sure your online gaming experience is okay for your child:

  • Teach your child to use voice chat wisely, make him or her aware of voice masking technology.
  • Make sure your child uses suitable screen names (aka gamer tags) that are appropriate for his or her age.
  • Make sure your child knows what a cyber-bully is and why it’s bad.

As a parent, you need to be educated on your child’s games.

  • Go ahead and use parental controls on all your gaming devices, and make sure you know about the games your child plays.
  • Make sure you know how the mechanics, social interactions, and online content work.
  • Make yourself knowledgeable of ALL of the games that he or she plays, and most of all, watch your child play.  You might just gain some insight into your child’s online habits.

Do you limit your child’s screen time during the summer?  What safety measures have you put in place?

Author Bio: The article is written by experienced writer Jason Phillips. He owns an online gaming website Tom and Jerry Games 365. Apart he is a loving father who spends his free time with his kids.

Monday Rewind: My Favorite Online Reads (Week of June 3, 2013)

Last Week’s Favorite Online Reads

Here’s a sampling of some of the online reads I enjoyed the week of June 3rd:

{PERSONAL GROWTH}

How to Find a Mentor to Help You Go Further, Faster by Michael Hyatt

{MINISTRY/LEADERSHIP}

Directional Leadership: Leading Sideways by Sam Luce

4 Ways to Disengage Parents From Your Ministry by Greg Baird

{SOUL CARE}

7 Things You Need When You’re Overwhelmed & Can’t Keep Up by Ann Voskamp

Slowing Down {In Opposite World} by Courtney Joseph (for Women Living Well)

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I hope you enjoy reading these articles as much as I did.

Did you read something this week that inspired or encouraged you?  Share it with me so I might check it out, too!

Do You Not See It?

“For I am about to do something new.

See, I have already begun!  Do you not see it?”

Isaiah 43:19

I am about to enter a new season of ministry leadership at my church.  As I do so, I believe in God’s sovereignty, timing and call on my life.  He has orchestrated all of the details that have led up to this time and I walk in confidence that He goes before me.

One day, as the realities of this new season began to sink in, my mind was flooded with thoughts about the word “new“.  So, in true blogger fashion, I took to my computer and jotted down my thoughts.  Here’s what I wrote:

New is exciting.  New is refreshing.

New is unlimited possibilities.  New is full of promise.

New is scary.  New is uncertain.

New is exhausting.  New is learning all over again.

God is sovereign.  God is faithful.

God is loving.  God is awesome.

God is a provider.  God is my Father.

New is needed.  God is good.

Earlier this week, I read a timely word in my Jesus Calling devotional that stopped me in my tracks.  Here’s a photo of what I read (note my highlighted and underlined portions):

Jesus Calling June 4

As I walk through the days ahead, I choose to walk through demanding days by gripping the hand of my Savior and walking in confidence that He who called me is faithful (1 Thessalonians 5:24).  Amen!

My Thoughts on Milestones as a Mom and KidMin Leader

When I became a mom 17 years ago, older women would say, “Cherish every moment.  They grow up very quickly.”  As a mom of young children, I honestly couldn’t fathom them growing up quickly.  I was trying to survive each day!  It felt like they’d be little forever and that I’d always be changing diapers, getting up during the night, picking up toys countless time a day, vacuuming up Cheerios, potty training and chasing after children who liked to run and explore everything!  These days, I find myself giving that same timeless and true advice to moms of young children, with the preface, “You might not believe this right now, but…”

This year has been a huge year of milestones for my children, who are now ages 17 and almost 14.  Milestones are nothing new; my children have hit many over the course of their young lives.  It’s only when there are a TON of milestones in one year that it’s get to be a bit overwhelming.  A few major milestones marked this year include:  learner’s permit, class ring/ring banquet, Prom, becoming a high school senior (my son) and yesterday, my daughter graduating from the 8th Grade.  I have had a wide range of emotions, that’s for sure!

I’ve viewed the events of this year through two lenses: my Mom lens and my KidMin leader lens.

As a Mom, I wonder, Have we, as their parents, done enough?  What could we have done differently?  Have we given them the tools to make their own decisions and live on their own?  The time really has gone by fast.  My mom has told me (and countless other women) about seasons of motherhood.  I would describe this season of motherhood as the preparing to launch season.  This particular season has found me being way more intentional in helping them to pray more purposefully, resolve relational conflict in healthy ways, be sure about what they believe and why, live out their faith courageously, manage their time, take care of their things and manage their money better.

As a KidMin leader, I wonder, How do we as leaders help parents navigate the many seasons of parenthood?  Do we mark and celebrate spiritual and life milestones with them?  Are we intentional as children transition from one area of ministry to another?  These questions have kept my KidMin leader working overtime lately and will become part of my focus for the upcoming ministry year.  It is important that my team and I recognize that parents (1) like to celebrate milestones in their children’s lives and (2) they need guidance on what to expect, support from their church and support from other parents going through a similar season and those who’ve already lived through those seasons.

I will be dusting off a few of my resources to give our team a good foundation to brainstorm from.  Some of the resources I’m turning to are:

The Legacy Path:  Discover Intentional Spiritual Parenting by Brian Haynes

*He also had a website, which you can check out here.

Take It Home:  Inspiration and Events to Help Parents Spiritually Transform Their Children by Mark Holmen

Parents, how are you marking milestones in your child’s life?

KidMin leaders, how is your ministry helping parents celebrate and navigate milestones and transitions?  What resources do you use?  I am looking for ideas to please share away!