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Global Leadership Summit – Day 2 Notes

Day 2 of Willow Creek’s Global Leadership Summit did not disappoint!  The speaker line-up was fantastic and their messages gave me much to think about in the days and weeks ahead.

If you weren’t able to attend, you can read some of the things that stood out to me from today’s speakers (I will share my personal takeaways and action steps in the coming weeks):

Session Five (Part 1):  Joseph Grenny (@josephgrenny) “Mastering the Art of Crucial Conversations”

Anytime you find yourself stuck, stop and ask: “What crucial conversation are we not holding or not holding well?”

**2 options for handling crucial conversations:

  1. You can TALK it out.
  2. You can ACT it out.
  • You can measure the health of a team, relationship, etc. by the number of crucial conversations.
  • Crucial conversations are either a pit or a path.
  • Crucial conversations are the core of a healthy team.  Improvement in this area will dramatically improve the health of the team.

**The Three Crucial Moments in Churches:

  1. Performance problems with volunteers or staff.
  2. Members who are struggling in sin or disconnecting from the church.
  3. Concerns with pastors.

**The Principle of Crucial Conversations: The vital behavior that enables most any positive organizational outcome is CANDOR at moments of acute emotional and political risk.

**Areas that affect crucial conversations:

  • Individual influence
  • Teamwork
  • Productivity
  • Marriage Success
  • Diversity
  • Quality
  • Safety

**Seven Crucial Skills in having Crucial Conversations:

  1. Start with heart
  2. Learn to look
  3. Make it safe (See below)
  4. Master my stories
  5. State my path
  6. Explore others’ path
  7. Move to action

**Ingredients of Safety

  1. Mutual purpose – this says, “You know that I care about your goals.”
  2. Mutual respect – this says, “You know that I care about you.”

**A few thoughts about CANDOR:  Candor is never the problem.  People NEVER become defensive about what you’re saying.  People become defensive because of WHY they think you’re saying it.

Session Five (Part 2):  Erica Ariel Fox (@ericaarielfox) “Winning from Within (How to Lead Ourselves)”

Performance gap is defined as “what you could do at your best vs. what you do in the moment.”

  • Think of yourself in a new way.  Think, “I am plural.  I am not singular.”

The Big 4 Innovators

1. The Dreamer (Your Inner CEO) – Creates possibilities

  • Sets strategic vision
  • Senses a path forward
  • Gives direction

Question:  Is there a dream in me I have left behind?

2. The Thinker (Your Inner CFO) – Clarifies Perspectives

  • Analyzes data
  • Manages risk
  • Considers consequences

Question:  Can you articulate a case for the moral outcome you desire to see?

3.  The Lover (Your Inner VP of HR) – Cares about People

  • Feels emotions
  • Manages relationships
  • Collaborates with others

Tip:  Have a practice before you go into a big meeting; call the name and face of someone you love in your heart.

4,  The Warrior (Your Inner COO) – Catalyzes Performance

  • Takes action
  • Reaches goals
  • Speaks hard truth

Tip:  Find places in your life where you’re saying “yes” today and say, “No, but thanks.”

Session Six (Part 1):  Don Flow 

  • We are called to love people, not just exercise authority over them.

**Leaders S.E.R.V.E.

Show respect

Earn trust

Reach for perfection – don’t be satisfied with the way things are

Value input

Energize others

  • Leadership flows out of who we are, not just what we do.
  • Clarity of purpose gives someone something to believe in.

“Courage is an inner resolution to go forward despite obstacles; cowardice is submissive surrender to circumstances.  Courage breeds creativity; cowardice represses fear and is mastered by it. Cowardice asks the question, ‘Is it safe?’  Expediency asks the question, ‘Is it political?’  Vanity asks the question, ‘Is it popular?’ but conscience asks the question ‘Is it right?’ There comes a time when we must take a position that’s neither safe, nor political, nor popular, but one must take it because it’s right.”

–Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Session Six (Part 2):  Allen Catherine Kagina (@CG_URA) 

  • If we are willing to invite the kingdom of God in, God will take over and we’ll see better societies.

Session Six (Part 3):  Wilfredo De Jesus (@PastorChoco) 

  • We cannot allow prayer to become a crutch and cause us not to do anything.
  • You cannot let your budget dictate your faith.
  • God is looking for someone to stand in the gap.  However, the moment you decide to stand in the gap, you will face opposition.
  • We must not be afraid to take our faith into the community.
  • With revelation comes responsibility.

**Leadership lessons from Nehemiah:

  • He prayed.
  • He planned.
  • He proceeded.
  • He persuaded.

Session Seven:  Ivan Satyavrata (@AGCKolkata) “The Power Paradox”

  • There is no such thing as leadership without power.

The paradox: a leader must be able to wield power, real power, in order to lead effectively.  She must, however, at the same time be genuinely vulnerable, subservient & seemingly powerless.

**3 Types of Power

1. Knowledge Power

  • Knowledge is power.
  • How am I stewarding my knowledge as a leader?
  • Leaders hold the scepter of power in one hand and a towel and basin in the other.  Which one are you gripping tighter?

2. People Power

  • Leaders have the power to influence people.

3. Kingdom Power

  • God’s Kingdom people regularly pray, “Thy Kingdom come.”

Question:  Is the world a better place because of your power?

Continue the conversation about the Summit on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram using the official Summit hashtag #GLS14.

If you attended the Summit, what were your key takeaways?  Share them below!

Global Leadership Summit – Day 1 Notes

Hello friends!  I’ve been away from this platform for a while – between our VBS, vacation and gearing up for fall, things have kept me away but it feels great to be back!  I’ve missed you!

Today, I attended Day 1 of Willow Creek’s Global Leadership Summit.  It’s been a few years since I’ve attended but I’ve always enjoyed it.  The speakers have always been dynamic and have left me with many leadership principles that I apply today.

If you weren’t able to attend, you can read some of the things that stood out to me from today’s speakers (I will share my personal takeaways and action steps in the coming weeks):

Session One:  Bill Hybels (@BillHybels) “Hard-Fought Leadership Lessons”

1. Leaders are gifted by God to see things that other people don’t.

  • Your culture will only be as healthy as the senior leader wants it to be.
  • People join organizations – they leave managers.
  • The kindest form of management is the truth. (Jack Welch)
  • Everybody wins when a leader gets better.

**3 key points of evaluation – What do you need to:

  • Start – What do you need to do to move ahead?
  • Stop – What isn’t working?  Do you need to modify it or eliminate it altogether?
  • Continue – How can you motivate and inspire your team to continue doing what’s working?

2. Great leadership, by definition, is relentlessly developmental.

**5 ways to develop new leaders:

  • Put them in high-challenge roles.
  • Place them on a short-term task force (allows you to “test drive” a leader before putting them in a high-capacity role)
  • Provide real-time feedback
  • Provide coaching and mentoring
  • Encourage them to attend classroom courses and seminars

3. Find & develop leaders with a legacy mindset.

  • Look for people who aren’t just interested in ladder-climbers – look for people who can stay the long-term.
  • Legacy leaders leave something beautiful behind when their hourglass is empty.
  • What legacy will you leave behind?

4. Endurance

  • The grander the vision, the greater the price tag.
  • Pursue solitude to hear God in unrushed ways.
  • Humble yourself and ask for help if you need it.

Session Two (Part 1):  Carly Fiorina (@CarlyFiorina) “Defining Leadership”

  • Leadership is the same, no matter the context.
  • What unlocks potential?  Leadership.  Leaders unlock the potential in others.

Leadership is NOT:

  • Management – leadership is about changing the order of things.
  • About position and power

 

  • Set the framework and then set your team free.

The 20/20 rule:

  • 20% of the people in most organization are change warriors.
  • 20% of people are not going forward and become resistant.
  • 60% are skeptics.
  • Change never happens unless the 60% are moved.

Session Two (Part 2):  Jeffrey Immelt “Positioning Your Organization for the Future”

Fact:  General Electric (GE) invests one billion dollars each year for leadership development.

  • Hold regular times for leadership development.
  • Eliminate fear in the workplace.  Make coming to the workplace enjoyable for your employees.

Session Three (Part 1):  Susan Cain (@susancain) “Quiet: Challenging the Extrovert Ideal”

Fact:  One-half to one-third of people are introverts.

  • There is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all environment.

Encouraging an introvert’s creativity:

  • Stop the madness for constant group work.
  • Forget networking.  Focus on service.
  • Restore quiet to your culture.

Encouraging an introvert’s leadership:

  • Groom an ‘unlikely’ leader.
  • Find your complement.
  • Find a role model.

Session Three (Part 2):  Bryan Loritts (@bcloritts) “Instigating Change through Personal Sacrifice”

  • The blessings of God are not meant to be hoarded; they’re meant to be shared.
  • Our vision as leaders have got to go beyond what will perish.

Session Four:  Patrick Lencioni (@patricklencioni) “The Most Dangerous Mistakes Leaders Make”

**When we do these 3 things, we not only hurt our leadership – we hurt people.  What do these three things have in common? PRIDE!

1. Becoming a leader for the wrong reasons – notoriety, fame, power, money, etc.

  • The only payoff for leadership is eternal.

2. Failing to embrace vulnerability.

  • When we do this, we destroy trust with those we lead.
  • People don’t want us to be perfect – they want us to be human.
  • Admit when you need help.
  • Admit the challenges.

3. Making leadership too important.

  • Our identity as a leader can become what we strive for.

I can’t wait to continue the learning tomorrow!  Join the conversation throughout the Summit on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram using the official Summit hashtag #GLS14.

If you attended the Summit, what were your key takeaways?  Share them below!

Choose to Speak Life!

Photo Credit: cornerstonedelco.org
Photo Credit: cornerstonedelco.org

 

A month ago, my daughter and I began a weekly one-on-one Bible study.  We are working our way through Elizabeth George’s book A Young Woman After God’s Own Heart.  The conversations that have come out during our time together has far exceeded my expectations.  I get to hear her share more of her tender heart, her struggles, what matters to her more than I have by just asking her to tell me about her day.  Our time together gives me the opportunity to speak life into her, to encourage her, to pray over her and with her.  My time with her account for some of the most precious minutes of my entire week.

Yesterday I was reminded that some girls don’t have a female at home who cares for them and invests time speaking life into them.  One of my leaders came into my office, deeply burdened by something that a little girl in her small group asked this past Sunday.  Her question: “What if your Mom says you’re worthless?”

The girl’s leader expressed to me how speechless she was.  She (the leader) found it hard to believe that a child so young had ‘worthless’ as a part of her vocabulary.  As only God could orchestrate, I was able to look my heartbroken leader in the face and remind her that this is why we minister each and every week.  It’s more than just preparing and teaching a lesson.  We are building relationships with children from broken homes; children who are struggling to know that they matter and have worth because God created them for a purpose.

We have the opportunity to speak life into people in our circle of influence.  Whether we lead a staff, teams of volunteers, a small group of children at church or are parenting our own children, we have an opportunity to speak life.

What might that look like?

**Take time to listen – really listen.  Listen with your ears and your heart.

**Remind them of their worth in Christ.

  • He created them in a special way (Psalm 139:13-18).
  • He delights in them (Zephaniah 3:7).
  • He has a purpose for them (Jeremiah 29:11, Ephesians 2:10).

**Tell them how important they are to you – and do this regularly.

  • What special traits/gifts/talents do they possess?
  • What do they do well?
  • How are you seeing God work in their life?
  • What do they bring to the group?  How would the group be different if they were not a part of it?

I am so thankful to serve in a church that places a high value on Children’s Ministry.  I am thankful to serve alongside volunteers whose hearts break for hurting children.  Children today need to hear positive messages from the adults in their lives.  Our words have power.  They need us to pray regularly for them and with them.  They need us to speak life into them.

What child needs an encouraging word from you today?  Ask God to reveal that to you and then act.  Speak life!

 

Connected to the Vine

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Photo Credit: www.versexverse.com

A few weeks ago, I ate a bunch of grapes and when I had eaten them all, something grabbed my attention.  The empty vine that I held was so tightly intertwined, I’m surprised I was able to free any grapes to enjoy!  A very familiar scripture passage popped into my mind:

“Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit…”

John 15:5

I didn’t think much about the empty grapevine after that evening, but this morning, I was again reminded of the same scripture.  You see, I was out running errands but came across some beautiful plants that I thought would be perfect to plant in the planters on my front porch.  I couldn’t wait to get home and plant them in the lackluster planters.

As I cleared out what was left of the mums I had planted months earlier, I notice that while the branches broke off easily, pulling the root out of the planters was a bit of a struggle.  Again, the above scripture came to mind.  The passage continues:

“Anyone who parts from me is thrown away like a useless branch and withers…”

John 15:6

Staying connected to God (the Vine) is a vital element of a growing relationship with God.  So often, those of us in ministry work in the name of the Lord without realizing that we might not be spending adequate time in the Word and the presence of our Savior.

At our staff meeting that same week, our Senior Pastor encouraged us to stay connected to the Vine by incorporating the following into our regular spiritual practices:

The First 30: We were encouraged to find a quiet place (the Sanctuary, the Worship Center, the prayer chapel or our office) and spend the first 30 minutes of our day with the Lord before we jump into our work.  When he suggested this, I realized that even though I work in a church, I rarely sit in the prayer chapel or Sanctuary to pray or read my Bible.  This was a great suggestion.

Attending staff prayer: Three times a week, our entire staff gathers for 30 minutes to pray.  The time isn’t required but it’s highly encouraged.  It’s a time to take a break and connect with each other about personal and ministry needs.

Retreat Day: The last thing that our Pastor encouraged was for us to take a personal retreat day monthly, quarterly or a few times a year.  The retreat day should include time for solitude, prayer, Bible reading and just sitting in the presence of God.

During Holy Week, I was able to take a few days away to for prayer, planning, reading and studying.  While the time included some distractions (ugh!), I was able to read some of George Barna’s The Power of Team Leadership as well as think through a volunteer orientation program I’d like to re-launch this fall.  My time in the Word was extra special because my Mom wrote a devotional for me to use each day.  You can download the devotional here and use it in your own quiet time.

I am so thankful for a leader who not only cares about the ministries we lead but also cares for us personally.

Whether you lead a ministry, lead children as a volunteer or lead your family, it is important – or rather imperative – that you stay connected to the Vine.

What does this look like in your life?  How do you stay connected to the Vine while leading a busy life?

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